Do you feel like you always end up in toxic relationships, with narcissists, or abusive partners?
Have you ever wondered why you end up dating the wrong people?
Have friends tried to set you up with someone? They will rave about this person, but in the end it just comes down to; “this person is also single, and you have a similar interest”.
The places to meet a partner is shrinking considerably, especially with age. Gone are the days of large friendship groups that could hit the town and meet new people. Friends are getting married, having children, or naturally settling down for a quieter life. These lifestyle changes don’t leave very many options, and inevitably to online dating platforms, especially apps.
These days the top dating apps are Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge.
All claim to help you find the person of your dreams, but they all have the same problem. The match criteria are superficial at best! That’s not to say physical attraction is not important, continuing with the above example; your friend’s single friend is almost never psychically attractive. But they have a similar interest, right? Does that mean you can be defined by one of your interests?
How many times have you gone on a date with someone that on paper is perfect. You have all the same interests, the physical attraction is there but you still do not connect in person?
How many of your couple friends have completely different tastes in music, movies, hobbies, and yet they are perfect for each other?
What about the old saying “opposites attract”?
The answer to all those questions is personality compatibility.
Personality tests show that the key building blocks of our personality can be divided into 4 key areas. Introvert/Extrovert, iNtuitive/Sensing, Thinking/Feeling, Judging/Perceiving.
Like how the teeth of a key fit the pins of a lock; the different aspects of our personalities need to have a balance of push and pull. Extroverts and Introverts usually attract each-other, however Thinkers and Feelers almost always repel. The reason; Extroverts respect Introverts ability to be comfortable by themselves, and think before they speak. Introverts respect the Extroverts ability to talk to new people, and have a wealth of seemingly unlimited energy. By contrast Thinkers can see Feelers as ‘away with the faeries’ people who are unrealistic. While Feelers can see Thinkers as absent minded, and cold hearted.
These two examples can be the difference between hitting it off with another person, or completely butting heads for what appears to be no reason. Think of when you meet a new person and it just feels like they rub you the wrong way.
The major issue is that it’s not always obvious from the get-go, usually due to other factors, the most common being physical attraction. This can lead to ignoring warning signs, and an inevitable break down in communication and the relationship.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Fortunately, you can have the best of both worlds, physical and mental attraction. Unfortunately, the dating industry is big business, with the largest platforms all being owned by just a couple of giant, billion dollar publicly listed companies that definitely do not want you to find your forever match.
It’s great to see that more and more people are adding their personality type into their profile on dating platforms. However, it doesn’t help so much when you don’t know how your personality will fit with theirs, that is until now.
Ours is the first dating app that uses your personality type to tell you if you are a personality match for potential partners. Ours was designed and built so you don’t end up dating the wrong people. It was developed by one man as an option for his mother to avoid the pitfalls of throwing money at the same giant companies in the hope of finding someone. You can read more about his story here.
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